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Where does happiness come from? This week going over best 10 ideas on: The Happiness Hypothesis. Today’s book summary and book review: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom. A great read on the positive psychology movement and studying where happiness comes from. You might also consider getting the full audiobook for this!
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★☆★ BIG 10 IDEAS ★☆★
(1:15) ELEPHANT AND RIDER
Lots of divisions in past have been made: BODY vs. MIND / Right brain vs. Left brain / Superego id and super Id / etc
Internal conflicts + sometimes want different things. Body mind need to work together.
EX: Want monogamy – body attracted to different people
EX: Want health but body craves sugar / salt / fat
EX: Want start business but love sleeping in
(2:15) HAPPINESS ORIGINS
-STORY: Me in Thailand w/ monks. Doing whole life sitting / meditating. Rid of attachments. Other extreme: USA strive / compete / climb corporate ladder – consumer everything. Feels empty.
What is middle path? Are there attachments worth striving for?
1. GET WHAT YOU WANT (i.e. post goal / achievement / hedonism)
2. COMES FROM WITHIN (Buddha / enlighten / exist)
COMES FROM WITHIN, ALSO WITHOUT (middle path! / ARE things worth striving for in life / Strive for the RIGHT attachments)
(4:00) HAPPINESS SET POINT
We adapt to set point
New TV week one is HUGE. Hot tub is HOT. Adapt over time.
EX: 20million or be paralyzed from neck down – who’s happier? (within a year both similar to base line level of happiness w/in 10%)
“Hedonic treadmill” – we don’t just habituate, we recalibrate
(6:15) HAPPINESS FORMULA
H = S+C+V
EX: Plant: Spring back to life if get conditions right. Almost dead – but can be fixed. Same with us.
Happiness = set point + conditions + voluntary actions
Don’t worry about what you can’y control (set point). Focus on what we can control (Conditions & Voluntary Actions) and maximize that!
(11:15) HAPPINESS SUCKERS
NOISE: linked to more stress
COMMUTE TIME: Never adapt or get used to
LACK OF CONTROL: Wellspring of human happiness
SHAME: sucks self-worth
RELATIONSHIPS: Need to handle conflict healthy way
(14:10) HAPPINESS BOOSTERS
(16:15) VALUE CONSTRAINTS
Suicide study = less likely the more constraints we have.
Beneficial to have lines (coloring inside lines can be fun)
(18:00) GOAL ATTAINMENT
Pre goal striving vs Post goal striving
Astronaut Syndrome: Whole life working for a goal, go to moon and back, shake president hand…. now what?
We get more pleasure from making progress towards our goals than we do from achieving them.
(19:20) PURPOSE OF LIFE
QUOTE: “I don’t believe there is an inspiring answer to the question ‘What is the purpose of life?’” he says. “Yet by drawing on ancient wisdom and modern science, we can find compelling answers to the questions of purpose within life. . . . Happiness is not something you can find, acquire or achieve directly. You have to get the conditions right, and then wait.” Focus on what you can do – get conditions right, keep improving and striving / accepting more. Certain level can force happiness. Just exists.
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